Try writing her a list to refer to in order to accommodate her brain injury.
I love it when you _____________ I like it when you _____________ I don't mind it when you __________
on one side of the paper. In the second column:
It bothers me when you __________ I get annoyed when you __________ I get angry when you _____________ I get very angry when you ___________
Then she can check the list as often as she needs to, because she isn't making the connections, and repetition might help -- and if it doesn't, she has the list!
Remember that she does have brain damage and that does mean some methods of communicating aren't going to stick with her.
And believe that she doesn't want to make you angry, but her brain gets in the way.
Ask her if that would work, but a list to consult might help her avoid behaviors that are driving you crazy.
Shellybear is right. You both have gone through so much in the past few years, her accident, your depression and decisions on gender, moving and losing loved ones...Take several deep breaths and find a new way to deal with things and a way to move on.
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Date: 2010-01-29 10:46 pm (UTC)I love it when you _____________
I like it when you _____________
I don't mind it when you __________
on one side of the paper. In the second column:
It bothers me when you __________
I get annoyed when you __________
I get angry when you _____________
I get very angry when you ___________
Then she can check the list as often as she needs to, because she isn't making the connections, and repetition might help -- and if it doesn't, she has the list!
Remember that she does have brain damage and that does mean some methods of communicating aren't going to stick with her.
And believe that she doesn't want to make you angry, but her brain gets in the way.
Ask her if that would work, but a list to consult might help her avoid behaviors that are driving you crazy.
Shellybear is right. You both have gone through so much in the past few years, her accident, your depression and decisions on gender, moving and losing loved ones...Take several deep breaths and find a new way to deal with things and a way to move on.