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After reading the kind responses to my last post, I got to thinking of a way to do this, so here it is. Someone asked what everyone is wearing? Um... clothes? Or Fursuits are fine too. Spectra and I were going to be wearing Kimono's but my dear friend who was making them for us had a problem, and they won't be finished now, but that's ok. I hope we can find something nice to wear in the closet, or else we are going to have to make a shopping run to somewhere cheap on Friday at con. And by cheap I mean cheap, as money is going to be nonexistant for us. I do have the black velvet dress I wore on my birthday a couple years ago... but who wears black to a pawfasting? And I don't know if Spectra even has a nice dress or not right now. So when we get home Wednesday, we're going to have to look through the closet to see. I suppose there is always my hot pink PVC Party Dress..... and associated boots and stockings.... um, maybe not?

Also, I'd really really really appreciate it if someone could take lots of pics or even video of the ceremony and give me a copy? Pretty Please? Not sure who there has the equipment to do so.

I want to be able to play music before and after the ceremony also.... I asked Tyger if there was a way to do so but haven't heard back yet. I can use my Laptop, but need speakers....

Sheesh, this last minute stuff can drive a girl mad, eh?

BTW, the schedule is up for MFM. We did have to move our ceremony from the original time to 2PM on Saturday, due to a conflict that Tyger had. He's officiating the ceremony for us, which is so very fitting, as he is the person who introduced Spectra and I to each other, way back in 2002 when I was living with Tyger and Spike in St. Louis. Boy, do I miss those days at times. That was a fun place to live and two great friends to live with. But in the end, I think I came out ahead. Who could ask for someone better to share my life with than the lovely, loving vixen I have now? This doesn't mean that I'm giving up being poly, nor is she... but we do love each other so very very much. And we truly ARE happy together. So, the next time you see me posting about being all alone in the world, just do me a favor and after you bitchslap me for being silly, remind me of how much I do love her.

A post with actual substance!

My dear friend, gentle_gamer made a post on one of the Transgender LJ groups we are both on that has really gotten me thinking this morning. She was talking about how people perceive others and themselves in gender roles. It was quite a good post. Here is what I replied to her:

"""Hon, as time goes on, I'm starting to feel more and more as you state here. A year ago, I was dead set on having SRS as soon as possible. Time passes, hormones work on the mind, and the mind itself thinks things through (say that 5 times fast) even when we aren't actively thinking of things. I'm finding out that even though I identify much more with the female end of things than the male, I am happy at heart being Susan, and being with my dear Brianna spectrafox. Of course, we are both poly too, and have or want more relationships, but that doesn't apply to how I feel about the gender spectrum. Will I ever have SRS? Probably, as I want to be sexually active as a genetic female does. Do I enjoy such things with the way I am now? Yes, very much so, when the opportunity arises. (No pun intended) Would I be happier having SRS against not having it? I don't know. More time must pass, more thinking must be done. And more experiences must be had. But I do know that we, as in those who choose to portray themselves in this world as "female" face an uphill battle in so many ways. In my line of work, profession truck driving, women are in the minority by far, and face so much discrimination and bigotry from other drivers, customers, and even companies. I am so sick of us being referred to as "Cum Depositories, Lot Lizards, Lazy Fat Bitches, Sluts" and so on. It makes me sick... yet these so called "Gentlemen" think nothing wrong of it. I feel sad for their own wifes, girlfriends, or SO's. Or maybe that's the way all men are? I don't mean to start a big mess of a discussion here, nor am I flaming anyone.... but until you've been here and seen and heard what I deal with daily, I think the rest of you are lucky. I'm a Susan, who happens to be a truck driver.... to sort of quote a poster here. And I'm glad I am who I am, and what I am. I am me. And that is good enough."""

And this is so true. In all aspects of life, we are judged almost the moment we are first seen as either Male or Female. Why? Are we so ingrained as a society to do this? Is there no other choice available? As Joyce stated in her post, she, and I, are so sickened by there only being two choices available for genders. Why does gender even matter on forms and such, and in common areas, such as restrooms, etc.? I may be stupid, but I don't see why it is this way, except for the fact that this is how it's always been. And I find it totally rediculous at most times. Now, maybe some don't feel safe using a gender neutral restroom, maybe some seem to feel more comfort in being defined as one gender or the other, and that is their right. But what about those of us who cross the lines between genders? What about those who identify as GenderQueer, Androgynous, BoiGrrls, GrrlBois, etc? Don't we count too? I'm not ranting here, just trying to get my point across. There is far too much emphasis in society today, especially in some of the lesser developed countries, such as the middle and far east, placed on gender. My opinions here, reply with your thoughts if you will.

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This is a repost of a conversation between Dartainian and myself on AIM just a bit ago, after he came back from a shower:

dartdragonwolf (11:16:06 AM): back
ButterscotchVix (11:16:32 AM): front
dartdragonwolf (11:16:46 AM): left
ButterscotchVix (11:16:53 AM): bottom
dartdragonwolf (11:17:13 AM): *groans*
ButterscotchVix (11:17:39 AM): that kinda describes me... a vixen with a nice front who's a left-winged bottom.... who groans.
ButterscotchVix (11:17:41 AM): hehehehehehee
dartdragonwolf (11:18:03 AM): omglol
ButterscotchVix (11:18:34 AM): hehe
ButterscotchVix (11:18:37 AM): it's true....
ButterscotchVix (11:18:43 AM): trust me
dartdragonwolf (11:19:27 AM): im sure I will find out in due time
ButterscotchVix (11:19:37 AM): Yup
ButterscotchVix (11:19:38 AM): hehe
ButterscotchVix (11:19:40 AM): lucky you

And since I guess it should be made known, We at the Vixen Den are taking him in for now, as he would be homeless after tonight... he's a good guy and needed a break, so I felt we should help him out.

Update on Comcast Fiasco

Comcast called twice and threatened with the ire of the vixen. Refund supposedly being processed. Bank also called, dispute in place if need be, all that it needs is a signature and to be faxed back, which I can't do until I get home on Wednesday... so if the money isn't there by then, it shall be done. Instant refund... we shall see.